Parents and carers across Australia are preparing for the upcoming social media ban for children under 16. While the goal is to reduce harm, the transition may be unsettling for many young people. HMRI Institute Director, internationally-recognised mental health researcher, and mum of two teenagers, Professor Frances Kay, explains why the change may feel challenging and how families can support their children through it.
Understanding why this change might feel especially difficult
For many children and teenagers, social media is woven into their everyday lives and forms a big part of forming and maintaining friendships. “Losing access to online spaces may disrupt familiar routines and have an impact on their sense of belonging,” says Professor Kay.
Children who use social media to share creative work, stay in touch with peers or explore identity may feel that something meaningful is being taken away. Professor Kay notes that “teens can interpret this change as a loss of independence or connection, even if the intention of the social media ban is to protect them.”
How screen use and social media influence thinking and behaviour
In 2025, the digital world plays an increasingly influential role in people’s lives, and especially for kids who have grown up as online natives. But social media can contribute, both positively and negatively, to self-esteem, behaviour and emotional regulation.
Screen habits can influence sleep, attention and mood. Some children may rely on social media for validation or to navigate friendships. “When something has been part of their daily routine for so long, removing it suddenly can feel like pulling away a support structure,” Professor Kay adds.
Signs a child may be struggling without social media
Some young people will adapt quickly, but others may show signs of distress. Parents might notice:
Professor Kay explains, “It’s very normal for kids to have big feelings during a change like this. Parents shouldn’t be alarmed by these emotions, but they should stay curious and connected with their children.”
Could this trigger a grieving process?
Yes. For some, losing social media may feel like losing a community or identity. “Grief doesn’t just happen when someone passes away,” Professor Kay says. “People can grieve routines, connections or parts of life that felt important and are now gone. It’s no different for kids and grief may show up as anger, withdrawal or sadness.”
Who may feel the impact more strongly?
Some groups may find the transition harder. Young people who experience neurodivergence, social anxiety or who rely on online communities for support may be especially affected. “For children who find in-person communication tiring or overwhelming, online spaces can feel safer,” says Professor Kay. “They may need extra reassurance and planning to stay connected in ways that feel comfortable.”
How parents can support connection and self-expression
Even without social media, children can maintain friendships, creativity and identity. Professor Kay recommends starting with listening. “Ask your child what they’re worried about, what they miss, and what they need from you. Being heard often matters more than having answers.”
Some practical ways to help might include:
The most important step is to talk early and talk often. Let your child know about the new rules, ask how they feel and acknowledge their concerns. “Try not to jump straight into problem-solving,” advises Professor Kay. “Start with empathy, you can work on solutions together once they feel understood.”
Brainstorm ways to stay connected with friends, explore new hobbies and clarify what support your child needs. Reassure them that you’re in this together.
“Kids cope better when they feel they’re not facing something alone,” says Professor Kay. “Your calm presence and willingness to listen can make a real difference. This can also be an opportunity to reflect on your own social media habits and consider whether modelling healthy boundaries might support you both in navigating this transition together.”
